Saturday, February 28, 2009
In the beginning, it is so sweet. Being with your lover is all you seem to think about, giving you that great intimacy that you need, besides sex. Making you feel like no one else can, you feel so special and happy that you have found the right one. Years go by and things are still quiet
the same, but something has changed. ,their behavior, coming in late and always having to work over time, secretive phone calls and lack of sex. You put a lot into this relationship and to be betrayed is something that will not be tolerated. If there is no trust in a relationship, then there is no relationship. You think you know what is going on, but you are not sure. You hope it's not what you imagine it to be, but you are too ashamed to ask. Maybe these signs will give you an answer. If you see your spouse doing a few of these things, it necessarily does not mean they are cheating. If they are here are the events that take place when someone you love is cheating.
Signs of a Cheating Spouse:
A change in his underwear like buying new underwear that he normally does not wear.
Whispering on the phone in a secretive way.
Hangs up the phone the moment you walk into the room.
Lack of conversation on the phone; meaning not saying much, just answering yes and no questions.
Immediately taking a shower after coming home
Smell of someone else's perfume or cologne.
Lipstick on the collar
Leaving out the house to go the store and does not come back for hours.
Provoking arguments so that they have an excuse to leave the house.
Always having to work late.
Coming in at late hours.
Lack of sex
Strange charges on the credit cards that you know nothing about.
Quick to throw an attitude at you, getting less attention and makes you feel like you done something wrong.
Strange behavior like being extra nice because of guilt.
Short conversations on the phone with you, never having time to talk.
Not having enough money to support the hours that came from working over time.
Marks on the body that could have came from sexual contact.
May not be able to get an erection or sexually aroused from sexual activity with someone else.
Attracting an STD and gives it to you.
Strange phone calls like hang-ups every time you answer the phone.
Having two cell phones so that he won't get caught up.
Having to call before you come to visit.
If you suspect that your partner is cheating these are just some signs to watch out for, confront this person and ask or if you do not want to ask do some investigating. You deserve to know, you do not want your life with a loved one to be based on a lie, and
it is not healthy.
It can be frustrating finding a gift for a loved one. Something unique and memorable is something to think about. Gifts are a way of showing someone that you care and appreciate them, so why not make it a keepsake. I know I have had my share of bad gifts and I'm not really looking
forward to anymore bad ones. When I think about purchasing a gift for an individual, I think about the things they talk about, what's in their home and something they can use. Of course you want the price of the present to stay within your budget as well.
If you are in a relationship or wondering what to give a bride at her bridal shower, a sexy gift is a great idea. A sexy gift like exotic lingerie will make a night of passion very easy to remember. If the sex is as good as it should be, then you probably won't remember what she had on anyway. Sex is always something to remember whether bad or good and I have had my bad experiences with that too, but that's not the topic. Exotic gifts will spice up a relationship; make the love life a little less boring. They can also open other's mind to exploring other ideas. Warning: It could bring out the wild side in you that you never knew existed. You may never want to go back.
Exotic lingerie, sex toys, sexy underwear, eatable panties and cologne are ideal gifts and are things both of you can enjoy. If you and your lover are into it, sexy costumes like a nurse's uniform, maid, dominatrix, school girl, and teacher's uniform are very good ideas to explore. It is fun and exciting playing roles in the bedroom. Men roles like the cable guy, the gardener, construction worker and plumber are perfected roles for men. If you are a little unique, some women like it when their men wear their panties. I don't know about you, but if I see my guy in my panties, believe me it wouldn't be pretty. It's just not something I would not enjoy, but to each it's own.
Playing the fantasy role is just acting out the foreplay. It's a little more work, but it is well worth it. Keep in mind sexy gifts makes you want to act out your curiosity and discover a new world of sexuality. Certain colognes have pheromones in them that make you feel sexy, act sexy and attract a lot of attention.
Friday, February 27, 2009
Many people don't know this but sex can help you to lose weight, boost your immune system and more. Dr. Joy Davidson a New York Psychologist and sex therapist says that sex can enhance our life physically and psychologically. Sex has many health benefits such as it helps to relieve stress and lower blood pressure according to researchers from Scotland. They reported their findings in the Biological Psychology.
Sexually activity meaning intercourse, also boost the immune system. Having sex once or twice a week boost the antibody called immunoglobulin A which helps you to fight off colds and infections.
Now the weight loss. Sex can help you to keep that slim figure. 30 minutes of sex can burn 85 calories. A 42 hour session of sex can burn 3,570 calories. Wow! that's a lot and more than enough to burn a pound.
Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.
So, Ladies and Gentleman it's time to have fun and sex your way to better health. What better way to do it, I'll forever love this form of exercise!
Turkey is the Main dish when it comes to thanksgiving. So you want it to be the best looking and the most tender, juiciest eye appealing dish on the table. People will never forget that juicy turkey. I take pleasure in preparing my turkey. I love turkey it's one of the healthiest meats to eat. To keep my turkey nice and moist I use my butter seasoning juice. Ok, here we go.
You will need:
First let your turkey defrosts all night. You can let it defrost in the fridge. Once it is defrosted, take it out of the wrapper and rinse thoroughly. Turn oven on 300 to 350 degrees. Unloop the legs from the skin and remove the heart, liver and etc pack from inside of the turkey. You will need a roasting pan for the turkey. Place the turkey in the pan and poke holes into the turkey. Poke holes all over the turkey, the legs, wings, breast and butt. If you're using an aluminum roasting pan, be careful not to poke a hole in it. It takes a turkey three and a half to four hours to cook. Depending on how much the turkey weighs.
The Butter Seasoning Juice
You need a stick and a half of butter. Melt butter in medium bowl in microwave or on the top of the stove in a small pot. If you are melting the butter on the stove make sure you turn the eye on the stove down to low heat. If you are melting the butter in the microwave. Use a microwaveable bowl with a top to melt it. It will not take the butter long to melt in the microwave, so put the microwave on 30 seconds.
Pour three tbsp of seasoning salt, tbsp of garlic powder, onion powder and a tsp of pepper into the butter and stir. Pour the seasoning all over the turkey while rubbing it. Rub it to make sure the butter juice gets all over the turkey and through the holes. This will keep the turkey moist and make it tender. Place the top of the roasting pan over the turkey and put it in the oven. If you have an aluminum pan that does not have a top use aluminum foil to cover the turkey. Cover it tight; fold the foil under the rim of the pan so that it does not come loose.
Every half an hour to forty minutes baste the turkey with the butter juice that it is cooking in. This keeps it from drying out. Keep basting until turkey is done, the turkey usually comes with a pop out timer that'll pop out to let you know when it's done. That's it you are finished and you can congratulate yourself on a job well done.
Thursday, February 26, 2009
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Walking is a good form of exercise. It can be fun when you bring along some music. Walking is very effective at losing belly fat as well as other areas of the body. Exercise is good for your skin and your heart. It boosts energy and strengths your immune system. It's also a good way to shed the unwanted fat around the thighs. When you speed walk for 13 minutes for one mile, you burn more calories every mile that you speed walk for those minutes. For beginners it is best to increase the distance of walking before moving up to speed walking. If you decide to walk go slow and gradually increase the distance. Be safe when walking, walk in well lighted areas if you are walking a night. Grab a partner, a friend of relative to walk with, it makes the walk more fun and makes the time fly by.
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Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Giving you a breast exam is very important. I’m not just talking about the women; I’m talking about you guys too. Breast cancer can happen to anyone male or female it does not discriminated. Give yourself monthly exams and go to the doctor regularly.
Here’s how to give yourself a breast exam:
Lay on your back. Feel your breast by placing three of your fingers on it. Slightly press and move the fingers around on your breast as if you were massaging it. Do this on the left, right, top and underneath the breast. Repeat with the other one. Breasts are lumpy because of the tissues that lay underneath them, so it might be kind of difficult to determine a lump. If you come to an odd lump that feels like a tight knot. Go see the doctor. It could be nothing, but just in case go see your doctor.
Get to know your breast and its connective tissues underneath. Get familiar with your breasts so that you will be able to tell a lump from your breast tissue.
When you are in the shower. Raise your arm up and feel under your arm and on the sides of your breast for any unusual knots. Do these breast exams when you are on your menstruation. There are a lot of things that goes on in your body when you are on your period. Hormones, bloating and etc. It is the best time to do it. You do not have to wait, just make sure you do your monthly exams.
When breast cancer is detected early there is a 98% survival rate.
ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) Or ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyper is the most common mental disorders that develop in children. When left untreated it can lead to poor school, work, and social behavior. It can also lead to low self-esteem. The Center for the Disease Control and Prevention estimate that about 2 million children have this disorder. Attention Deficit Disorder is a biological or brain based condition. It is impulsive, hyperactive and distractible behavior.
This mental disorder can continue in childhood and through out adult life. 30 to 70 percent will continue to have ADD as an adult. The cause of this disorder is still under investigation. Males are at a greater risk of developing ADD because of genetics and heredity. These two play a major risk factor. Research studies focus on genes and combination of genes to figure out the cause.
The differences between ADD and ADHD are ADD is without the hyperactive and ADHD is with the hyperactive behavior. The symptoms of these two mental disorders are:
Sounds and sights can easily distract inattentive behavior, having difficulty completing a task. Go from one activity to another, ADD can overlooked because sometimes it is hard to identify. ADHD involves hyperactivity. Hyperactivity is when there is a constant motion, always moving around and fidgeting. ADHD runs in the family. About 40%-50% of children with this disorder have a parent that has it. Brain injury might be the cause of ADHD, but a small number of children with this disorder have brain injury.
With ADHD, hyperactivity is very noticeable. Symptoms can be restlessness along with moving around and fidgeting. Having difficulty staying seated, talking too much, blurting out answers when not called upon, always interrupting and do not have the patience to take turns. With these symptoms, it makes it harder for the child to have good academic performance, a stable home-life and have problems developing social relationships.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
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Women tend to gain their excess weight in the hip, thighs and legs. Men usually show their weight gain in their belly. No one enjoys carrying extra weight on their body. In some cases it’s risky and in others it is just a little extra baggage. Two thirds of American men are overweight or obese; weight gain has increased tremendously over the years.
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With a certain amount of belly fat a health risk is concerned rather then weight gained in other areas of the body. Men usually gain most of their weight in the torso area. The fat is used for the body when it does not get enough food. The body is made to store and break down fat when needed.
When you put on the weight and do not do anything to burn it off. It releases fat molecules into the blood at a higher speed. This causes problems with the metabolism and the way the blood uses insulin. The risk of having health conditions increases, when too much belly fat is accumulated.
You will be at higher risk of developing these conditions:
Diabetes High Blood Pressure Certain types of cancers Sleep apnea Abnormal lipids High Cholesterol Insulin resistance Metabolism issues Heart disease
You can tell if you have too much belly fat by the size of your clothing. Menopause can also be a factor in belly fat. Belly fat can come from aging, eating too much, side effects of certain medications, heredity and from some health conditions. After menopause some women notice the extra belly pooch. Fortunately there are methods that help with the fight of losing and maintaining abdominal fat. The older you get the slower your metabolism becomes.
You may think that just because you don’t see much stomach fat in front of you that it is not a concern. What really matter is the fat that lies deep inside the abdominal that’s called; visceral fat. It’s the fat that surrounds the stomach muscles. Gaining that type of fat can lead to a higher risk of the health conditions as listed above. Subcutaneous fat that is located between the skin and the wall of the stomach. It is more visible and is less likely to be a health risk.
Although there are several causes of belly fat, heredity might be an issue as well. You just may have the unwanted gene of gaining weight in your midsection. As we get older our hormones change and that can lead to a slower metabolism and weight gain. With crazy hormones and less physical activity this causes the body to change the way it breaks down and stores fat.
Researchers have found that belly fat is not only energy waiting to be burned. It produces some fat cells that can help the insulin in your blood to fight the risk of developing type II diabetes. Also, it can produce estrogen after menopause which puts you at a greater risk of the developing breast cancer. Researching is still active in discovering why excess hormones affect your health.
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Monday, February 23, 2009
With the recession unemployment is an never ending battle right now. Thousands have been laid off and are struggling now more than ever. If you are willing to travel or move to get a job these are the 5 tops cities that will get you back on track.
Starting from 5
5.Milwaukee has a 4.8% unemployment rate. Health care is a popular field in this city if you are into it.
4. Richmond, Virginia has a 4.4% unemployment rate. There are tons of businesses out there and they also have military bases.
3.Boston, Massachusetts has a 4.2% unemployment rate. This city has so many Colleges and Universities.
2. Washington, DC has a 4.2% unemployment rate. They have lots of federal and government jobs available.
1. Wisconsin, Madison has a 3.5% unemployment rate. They are giving grants for jobs and there are lots of government opportunities.
There you have it, if you are willing to relocate these are the best cities to think about building your financial future. Hope these can help out, Good Luck!
Sunday, February 22, 2009
If you feel hungry in the middle of the day and just want a snack. Try the Fiber One bars, they are very delicious and satisfying. Fiber is great for maintaining a healthy digestive system and it makes you feel fuller in between meals. It's a whole lot better than eating on donuts or cookies.
Each bar contains 35% of the daily value of fiber and it is a good source of calcium. One bar is 140 calories and 4 grams of fat. Try one and you will get hooked, I eat them almost everyday!
As a child I got to know my mother’s habits. My mother drank several times a week. She loved her beer and brandy. She partied; I can say she had her fun. Once she got older in her late thirties she slowed down a lot. After awhile she eventually stopped. During her time of drinking, she allowed me to taste alcohol at some point. I thought it was nasty and didn’t care much about it. I was between 14 and 15 years old. Never once did my mother tell me it was ok to drink, she just let me experience the taste of it. I got older and I started drinking on occasions. I don’t consider myself an alcoholic; I just like to have a drink from time to time to relax. I have no need to have it or no desire to keep it in my house at all times.
My friend’s son is 13 going on 14 years old. For New Years she let him taste some champagne for the celebration. It was about a half of an 8oz cup. The next day he told his dad and his dad called her. He asks her if it was ok for him to let their son do drugs a few times a year. Of course, she said no. Then he proceeded to ask her; why would you let our son drink alcohol? She explained to him that it was just a little taste, to bring in the New Year. He said well you should have given him sparkling water instead of alcohol, which is true. My friend could have made a better choice and gave him the sparkling water instead of champagne. She figures it’s just a taste. What harm can it do? Before this she has never allowed her son to drink anything except this one time.
My friend’s Father use to be addicted to drugs and was an alcoholic. He had a rough childhood. He had parents that really didn’t care and let him do what he wants. He has changed his life for the better and now is a born again Christian. He tells her that by giving him that taste can ruin his life. He tells her that he could become an alcoholic and a drug addict and that it is illegal to give alcohol to minors. I thought she made a bad decision, but how can you determine what the future holds for your child with just a sip of alcohol? Explaining to him that it was just one time, he goes on and asks her; What if I just shot somebody one time. Is that ok? I asked myself what that has to do with the situation now. How can you compare murder to giving a half of cup of champagne to a minor? There is no comparison. He acts as if she gave him a taste of evil.
He says that he’s not trying to make her seem like a bad mother, but he had a funny way of showing it. She’s a wonderful mother and would never tell her child that it is ok to drink or do any kind of drugs. She had never done any drugs besides smoked some marijuana and that was long ago. I think he made too much out of the situation. He could have just discussed it and let her know he disagrees with what she has done. Instead he has made her feel like a bad mother and that she has ruined their son’s future. Determining someone’s future from just a cup of cheap champagne is ridiculous. I agree that she should not do it again, but she says she wasn’t planning on too. It was just one time. She has learned her lesson.
I don’t think her son’s father should not make out what there son’s future is going to be like because of the life he has lead in the past. You can raise your children up to be honest and to treat people fairly, but sometimes their life does not turn out the way you have hoped it to be. One mistake is one mistake and you learn from it. Something that is really not too serious shouldn’t be based on the whole life of one’s future.
Friday, February 20, 2009
When you child approaches you about sex, take a deep breath, it can be an unnerving and an uncomfortable feeling… It’s not going to be easy at first, but in the end, you will feel better about talking about it. Ask your teen what lead them to ask you this question. If they tell you that someone they have interest in has brought it to their attention, then it is ok. Hopefully they have not done anything yet. With the way society is with our kids growing up in it, peer pressure can be a bit overwhelming and more likely some teens might give in to it.
Explain to them that their body is a precious temple, keeping it pure and maintaining their virginity is a very rare and special thing. State that even though they might be thinking about doing it; they are simply too young for such an experience and the best thing to do is to wait until they are older and more mature. Inform them that just because you have feelings for someone it doesn’t necessarily have to be any sexual involvement, that there are consequences when having sex and even though your teen might think they know all about it, there is always more to tell.
Unprotected sex can lead to you contracting a sexually transmitted disease, like gonorrhea that can cause inflammation of the genital mucous membrane, burning pain when urinating, and a discharge. It is caused by a gonococcus bacterium. Another disease to worry about is PID (Pelvic Inflammatory Disease) an inflammation of a woman’s reproductive organs in the pelvic area, which can cause infertility.
Syphilis is a serious sexually transmitted disease caused by the spirally twisted bacterium Treponema pallidum that affects many body organs and parts, including the genitals, brain, skin, and nervous tissue, and Chlamydia, which can cause infertility, chronic pain, or a tubal pregnancy if left untreated. Many diseases can be contracted with oral and sexual intercourse. Oral sex is not safe and you still can catch certain diseases in your mouth.
Love can be a cruel emotion. Let you child know that just because they feel strongly towards another person, it does not mean that their feeling are mutual. Sex can be the only issue with the other person; he or she could be out to use you for it. Help them to understand that if they are not willing to wait for the right time, then that person might not be such a good influence on them.
Motherhood is a hard job; a child simply cannot raise a child. They have plenty of time to grow up, get their education and then they can decide if being a parent is what they want. Life is so good; they should be able to enjoy it while they can without any setbacks. Sex is a way of two people showing their love for one another. It is not something to take lightly. Giving up your virginity is a very important choice and you should not be coursed into it.
Trust and communication is so crucial to you and your child’s relationship. Your child being able to come to you and talk to you about the most important things that are going on in their life is so necessary. Knowing how your child feels and what is going on in their life without being too concerned, makes an open and great relationship between you two.
If you think that your child might go that way, then talking to them about birth control is an option. Sometimes talking does some good, but not enough and they still might end up having intercourse. Just be safe, let them know about birth control methods to prevent pregnancy. It’s hard I know, but you rather educate them and be safe about it, then to do nothing at all.
Good luck, being a parent is hard work. We want the best for our babies, sometimes it is hard to separate the day they were born from the day that they became adults. We wish our children could stay the cute adorable babies that they once were. They have to grow up, there might be drama, rebellion, and a lot of hair in the sink, but in the end, we love unconditionally and appreciate every single moment.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Monday, February 16, 2009
Caffeine is a bitter tasting, mild central nervous system stimulant found in more than 60 plants including coffee beans, tea leaves, kola nuts, and cocoa beans. It can also be man-made. It belongs to the same alkaloid as nicotine, morphine,and cocaine. It is an ingredient in diet pills, cold medicine, wake-up pills, nonprescription drugs, and allergy pills.
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I love my coffee when I first wake up in the morning, I do not think I am addicted to it. I have gone days without drinking my cup of jo and it did not bother me. For those who work long hours and need the pick me up than that is a different story. Caffeine is a drug, but not many think that it can do such harm to the body. Caffeine can dehydrate the body because it acts as a diuretic. There has not been any medical report of caffeine overdose, but there has been reports of "Caffeine Jitters" anxiety, insomnia, gastrointestinal problems, and shaking. A 250mg dose in a short period of time can cause nausea, headaches, tense muscles, and irregular heartbeats.
Over 80% of Americans use caffeine to make a difference in the way they feel and act. Caffeine is added to more than 1,000 over-the-counter drugs. You can have withdrawal symptoms and psychological dependence with the use of caffeine. Hypercaffeinated beverages have become very popular among teens and young adults, especially club-goers who order alcoholic drinks using these products. Energy drinks and supplements can be harmful to little children, people that are on medication, and the elderly. When consuming caffeine please use in moderation it can harm the body even when you think it is ok. Although I heard that there are more antioxidants in coffee rather then in tea, still when you drink coffee or any other drink that contains it try to drink less of it.
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Monday, February 2, 2009
Learn special techniques that will teach you how to make her climax every single time and also learn about the G-spot to fully understand the woman’s body to get the full effect. She will not get enough of you when you show her your special and unique skill on how to completely satisfy her.
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Why Men Lose Interest In Sex
There is nothing more hurtful than to think that your partner does not want to touch you. At first things were ok; having sex when you wanted to was no problem. Now all of a sudden when you want to have sex, he always turns you down. The first thing you think is that he is having an affair. That could be the case. Some men that don't want sex all the time could have a problem I mean down there, you know with the manhood. They could be suffering from ED (Erectile Dysfunction) it is reported that the reason why some men do not have sex is because 30% of men suffer from this condition. Depression can play a big role in the lack of sex because being depressed can lower means libido.
Ladies you are not going to like this but 20% reported that the reason they do not have sex with their partner anymore is because they are having an affair. 44% say they are just too tired to have sex and 68% say that their partner is not adventurous enough in the bedroom. There is no passion for those of you who think that this is the reason why your partner does not want to have sex. Get rid of the bedroom boredom explore more with sex and spice it up!
Not knowing why your spouse isn't interest in you anymore can be very frustrating it can make you feel insecure, unattractive, unwanted, unloved and neglected. 28% of men say that they don't know why they are not interested in intercourse with their partner and 66% women don't know why their men are not interested either. This shows lack of communication, How are you going to know what is wrong if you do not talk about it? Men are always portrayed to be the ones that are sex maniacs they just can't get enough of it but, surprising when it comes to lack of sex in a relationship now it is because the men are not giving it up.
Weight gain can also be the issue 38% of men say that they are not attracted to their spouse anymore because the spouse weight was a problem. 20 million couples are in a sexless relationship lack of communication and boredom in the bedroom is the problem. If you want that passion back discuss each others issues get to the source of the problem hopefully the issue is not an affair. Counseling can be of help to if you and your partner feels that will fix things. Having sex is not the only way of being intimate with your lover talking to each other trying to figure out each others needs can lead to a long passionate relationship in and out of the bedroom
Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?
According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!
A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.
6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax
There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…
Foreplay? What foreplay?
Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.
She’s thinking too much!
Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).
She’s full of… insecurities.
Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?
If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.”, or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”
ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!
She really doesn’t know her own body.
There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?
The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps…
YOU’re not paying attention!
True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!
To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!”; while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts. Click here to learn more...
YOU’re changing ‘techniques’ too fast.
Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.
So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location… it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.
Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too! Learn creative and easy ways to do it here…