Thursday, January 27, 2011

Dating Help: How To Approach And Reveal Your Crush

The fear of rejection can hurt and make you feel insecure about yourself. Rejection can also keep you from being happy and arousing your curiosity. How will you ever know the outcome of certain situations if you don’t have it in you to approach them?

Fear keeps us from a lot of things and love is one of them, don’t let it conquer you! I admit fear has won its battle many times in my life when it comes down to particular circumstances and I totally regret it. You will never achieve anything if you do not give yourself the opportunity to.

This person you are longing for might feel the same as you, but sooner or later someone has to come out. Think of this quote “Fear is only a state of mind” from Bartholomew, your mind feels what you allow it to feel. Everyone has been dumped or rejected in some way or another, the thing of the matter is how you get through it and what you have learned from it.

If you want to reveal your crush here are just a few ways of approaching this person:

Prepare for rejection, it might not go the way you want and then again you never know.

Build up your confidence! Walk straight and look them dead in the eye when talking. Break the ice with a joke or the latest news topic.

Try not to be so nervous, even though that’s going to be hard it is ok just don’t be crazy nervous. When I say that I mean sweating too much, being clumsy and losing your sense of words, you will definitely look like a insane person and that is unattractive. If you are very uneasy with it, sit back and wait another day until you feel comfortable.

Send a card and a rose with a sweet rhyme or short poem. If he or she takes an interest they will confront you. Taking them out for coffee is a great ice breaker too! Dating is fun and great way to learn about each other instead of just jumping right into a relationship.

Social rejection will break down your confidence, you have to be strong and realize that life is sometimes unfair and you will live there are many others out there who are looking for a relationship. Fear can suck the life out of you get out there tell that person, “hey I like you”, of course… don’t say it like that you don‘t want to scare them. You could be missing something great and if it does not turn out good at least it is not lingering in your mind you can move on.

I’m going to leave you with one of my favorite quotes: You gain strength, experience and confidence by every experience where you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you cannot do. - Eleanor Roosevelt

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